The Holy Grail

There’s a fascinating TED talk by the brilliant Esther Perel–the author of ‘Mating in captivity’– where she explores the secret to desire in long term relationships. This of course is the holy grail.

Falling in love is the easy part : “The honeymoon period” — anybody would take that ride. But what happens upon the moment that routine becomes part of your reality? How do you retain that passion, that fire? This is again the mystery of long term desire. Esther Perel went around the world asking couples,”When are you most drawn to your partner?”.  And what she found across the board was that everyone said the same thing. They found their partner most attractive when they were able to see their partner as a self-sustaining entity. It’s this idea that they were able to perceive their partner the way that other other people perceive them: A complete individual, a complete self-sustaining person. Not the ‘other half ‘ of you. But as a solid whole.

It’s an idea that attraction requires a kind of distance. Even desire requires a crossing over. I thought that was absolutely brilliant. How can we incorporate that into our own relationships? How can we create space between us and the ones we love so that we can retain that crossing over?How can we can see them as a self sustaining entity and fully appreciate them as the fully rounded, complete being  that they are?

I think that she’s onto something. For that reason I think she’s brilliant and everybody should watch that TED talk because if we can hack into the secret of long term desire we could solve all of our problems.

An Open Letter to All Mankind

Please Help Me

I am Thommo and I am a human being. I write this open request for help to all other human beings on this beautiful planet we share. The world that I am currently living in appears to be broken. It’s not irreparable, but it is not far off. That’s why I need every one to help me.

In my world, all the resources are used for the financial gain of big corporations and a greedy few that control them. They hold power over the governments in my world and none of them are interested in the needs of their people, in fact, many of them are actively trying to get rid of us. Also in my world, the people are very sick. Unfortunately all our scientists are trained by and have their research paid for by the big corporations. They no longer strive to make life better for us all, merely to make more money. They create cures and then invent the illness. They no longer look to prevent disease, they look to ‘treat’ it, prolonging the suffering and maximising the revenue stream. They tamper with the genetics of our crops ‘for the good of mankind’ as if mankind and nature didn’t have it pretty well sorted already! Soon all our food will be genetically modified and so will we.

Our scientists keep quiet when harmful chemicals and drugs are added to our food and water because if they spoke out they would lose their funding. Our power needs are based on dangerous nuclear power and resource wasting fossil fuels. We have the technology in my world to produce all our power through renewable resources such as solar and geothermal. There is little money in free energy so the corporations block the scientists from finding ways to utilise it for the good of us all. I need your help to set the scientists in my world free so that they can do what they are supposed to.

Many of the people in my world are controlled by belief systems that they have been brainwashed into believing. Deep down in their hearts they know they are controlled, but they are unable to escape. They are bombarded day in and day out by rules and regulations that they must follow. Their religions indoctrinate them with one set of rules they must follow, the corporations indoctrinate them with another which often causes conflict. Television programmes are exactly that, programmes subconsciously altering our state of mind and entering new beliefs without our knowledge. Our music now indoctrinates our children with perverse messages designed to corrupt and entrap them in a sub human existence. The people have been divided and view each other by the colour of their skin, their wealth and social standing and the part of the planet they were born on. They are divided by the politics that is forced on them by the corrupt governments and corporations. They no longer see each as equal human beings, and I need your help to wake them up.

Fear is the emotion most people in my world feel every day. Fear of what they will ‘lose’ if they don’t keep up their mortgage payments or pay the loans and credit cards bills. Fear that they won’t earn enough money to pay for their children’s state controlled education. Fear that they will ‘lose’ their jobs if they don’t perform better and put the company before their own families. They are the lucky ones! People in my world also experience hunger, not knowing if they will eat from day to day. They fear that their children will die of preventable diseases, caught from contaminated dirty water. They fear that in times of drought there will be no help that reaches them from their brother human beings no matter how much we give to charity. Fear that they will be killed in a war against an imaginary enemy, that could ‘appear’ anywhere in the world. Fear that soldiers from another land that don’t speak the same language will see them as an enemy because they have been programmed to believe that they are. Fear that their whole families will be instantly destroyed by an unseen attacker as they sleep in their beds, whilst a teenage soldier thinks he is playing a video game as he pulls the trigger that creates the fear. There is also the fear of dying. The way the governments and corporations treat the human beings in my world, for many that will be the end of their working life. Fear is a very negative emotion when it used as a control mechanism and it stops the people in my world from making positive change. Can you help the people in my world dispel the fear?

In my world the people have been lead to believe that money is the most important thing in their lives. That without it we could not function. This is an illusion that has been created by the wealthy corporations and the governments they control. If the people in my world knew that it was all a massive deception to keep them operating as slaves for the benefit of their masters, they would break free and restore the world back to its natural balance of peace and harmony. They would very quickly learn that we can all work together for the benefit of all mankind without the need for money and the slavery it creates. They would soon learn that money is the barrier to progress, not the result of it and would so learn to cooperate to maintain society the way it should be. The money control mechanism is rooted so deeply into the subconscious that people in my world say they would not bother working if there was no money in it. But there is still hope! I need your help to make the people of my world understand that they are better than that. To understand that they can achieve amazing outcomes just by the power of thought.

As I mentioned previously, my world is currently ravaged by wars. In the last 60 years in my world roughly 20 million people have died as a result of war, however, no politicians or ‘rulers’ have died in these wars. Only the poor that join up as a last resort die, not to mention the poor people that are invaded. Please help me to end the wars in my world. Violence is not the route to peace and love, it is the route to anger, hate and mistrust.

All I ask from you is that you imagine my world the way it should be. Imagine that it is peaceful, no wars at all. Imagine that it is balanced and only what is really needed is taken from nature as we learn to live in harmony with the world. Please imagine my world with no hunger. Imagine that no human being goes without the love that they need. Imagine that money does not exist and that the wealthy have no mechanism to divide and rule my world. Imagine that all human beings in my world work together to create paradise for all to enjoy. Please spend a few minutes a day imagining what I ask and my world will surely change for the better. You may even notice that there are things in your world that are not right and need changing. If you change what is wrong in your world, my world will also be changed for the better. There are nearly 7 billion people in my world and we are all equal. I believe that my world will change for the better, and I thank those of you that chose to help me change my world. All it takes is a little bit of empathy and compassion. Maybe that will be the reason that you pass my letter on to all the human beings that you know, so that they may decide whether or not to help me change my world and yours in the process.

Thank you,

Peace Love & Respect.

thommo

Altering perspectives

From birth we are all taught what our parents have been taught; which is often simply what their parents have taught them. We take this in without ever asking many questions such as who we are, why we are here and why things are the way they are. Generations have passed, trends have changed, technologies have emerged and communication has opened the doors to new evolutionary ideas and insights that are pushing the envelope on society’s boundaries. Yet, evolutionary ideas seem to remain in the ‘fantasy‘ section of an industrialist system.”

“Authority knows best” is the slogan that guides our conventional wisdom. We meanwhile, are left to mind our own business, go on with our lives and attempt to live happily ever after– as long we conform to the norms forced upon us. From cradle to grave, we are led to follow the guidelines of what authority defines as A state-of-the-art System; a system in which success seems to begin and end within the running wheel of education, career-performance, debt-management and retirement.
 A vibrant economy is the ultimate priority of our global hierarchy. While a vibrant planet, respect for all living beings, healthy meals, peaceful ways and conscious seem to be a mere subject of conversation, often turned into fund-raising campaigns with little to no impact at all. We shall nonetheless pass on these capitalist and patriotic values to our children– giving them the tools to carry out the very same cycle we have been in for as long as we can remember. After all, it is all we have ever known.
Some have stated that we have reached the peak of human evolution. But have we really moved beyond all the archaic and backward concepts of reality? Have we collectively let go of all that restrains humanity? When we consciously expand our awareness and look beyond what our system stands for, we realize that it is simply erroneous to presume that it endorses a ‘forever-sustainable’ way of living. It is no concern for respecting either Nature or human lives. It profits only through the notion of human unconsciousness. How many war casualties, oil spills, dead fish and natural disasters will we need to see before we set aside our differences, and awaken to our inter-connectedness with each other, with the Earth and all life-forms?
We destroy our home– the Earth– for the sake of the economy.
We torture and treat animals as mere commodities for the sake of the economy.
We continue to use oil–despite the alternatives– for the sake of the economy.
We perpetuate war and kill each other for the sake of the economy.
We promote superficial and materialistic values for the sake of the economy.
We in-debt the poor for the sake of the economy.
We remain asleep for the sake of the economy.
The understanding and wisdom that would deprogram our minds and open our eyes to the grand scheme of things has no economic value in the eyes of
The System”.

Vivid Dreams

So my question is, “How do I want to feel?”
I’ve become really interested in the idea of mediating experience of directly engaging the technical material of subjectivity itself; of employing technologies of rhetoric like language, song, storytelling and cinema.
To capture and control attention and thrust one’s subjectivity into a state of deep immersion and absorption is a necessary precursor for any kind of inter-personal persuasion, transformation or education to take place within one’s psyche. Janet Murray in her book ‘Hamlet on the Holodeck’ talks about the fact that as narrative beings we long to be immersed.We long merge with the narrative to obliterate all sense of separation and to be enveloped in the mediated environment-the ‘story world’.We want disappear and come out on the other side. And she says that so powerful is our desire to be immersed that it’s not just that we suspend or disbelieve but we actively create belief using our sophisticated intelligence to reinforce our belief in the ‘story world’ rather than to question it. We actively metabolize belief in the story. Knowing this, it’s a challenge for the artist as he constructs the cultural technologies of  the 21st century.With our technological desire to virtualize reality we should keep in mind that we have this immense opportunity to artfully and creatively construct these subjective ‘story worlds’.Thus, the narratives of the future have the potential to literally transform what it means to be human, to employ landscapes of mind and turn subjective experience in to a living, breathing painting; a dream that transcends into reality.
This is our opportunity.